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Build Intimacy, Pleasure & Trust By Learning Your Erogenous Zones

In today's society there are so many podcasts and articles regarding lack of pleasure and dissatisfaction in the bedroom. With years of doing Tantric work with clients I've come to a conclusion that "foreplay" is merely a thing any more. The keys to having a fulfilling sexual experience and lifestyle comes with; patience, building a intimate connection with the body,

and exploration. This is where learning and practicing with your erogenous zones can magnify and illuminate all three.

So you may be asking, what in the world are erogenous zones? Erogenous zones are points on

the body that you can touch or tap, and massage to stimulate pleasure. There are three tiers of erogenous zones throughout the body. Today, let's explore the main zones for Women(yoni) and Men(lingam) that can enhance your pleasure experience.

Pubic Mound

The mons pubis, the fleshy mound just above the clitoris, is rich in nerve endings that are connected to the genitals. Massaging the area in an up and down motion can indirectly stimulate the labia and clitoris.

If your partner is receptive to more, move on to kissing the area, then use the tip of your tongue to lick your way down. If you’re playing with yourself, massage or vibe to up your arousal.


This small pleasure bud contains over 8,000 nerve endings and is covered by a hood. Gently take it between your index and middle finger and slide it slowly in an up-and-down motion.

Want more? Use your fingers or a clitoral vibrator and rub your nub using light pressure/ low speed. Experiment with direction and tempo to find what feels best.

For some good tongue action, start slow and increase your speed and pressure.


The lower part of the vaginal opening is full of erotically charged nerve endings and home to the anterior fornix (A-spot).

Use fingers, a dildo, or penis to penetrate the vagina, take your time and focus pressure on the front wall while sliding in and out. For beginners I advise to massage this spot with the fingers first, then use thrust motions. Without a partner, you can use a crystal wand to massage this spot.


The G-spot is an area capable of causing what’s known as female ejaculation. Fingers or a curved G-spot vibrator are your best bet for reaching it.

With a good amount of lube/moisture, turn your vibrator or finger upward toward the navel and move it in a “come hither” motion. Use the middle finger to tap in an upward motion, massage in a circular motion as well. Repeat. Find what feels good and keep at it, allowing the sensation to build.


A person needs to be fully aroused to enjoy cervical stimulation, so "foreplay" is a must.

Any deep-penetration sex position can do it. Doggy style is a good one that can be performed or missionary position, using a regular dildo can too. When you find a depth and motion that feels good, keep going. Cervical orgasms are similar to what’s called a full body orgasm in Tantric sex. This is due to the cervical nerves connected to the heart center, opening you up to vulnerability and openness. Create eye contact with your partner and breathing knowingly will enhance your chances, you’re in for a treat if you can get there.


The glans penis is what’s known as the head. Thanks to 4,000 nerve endings, it’s the most sensitive part of the penis.

Tease it by rubbing your wet lips gently over the fleshy head before using the tip of your tongue around the rim. Next, take the glans into your mouth, swirling your tongue around it.

A well-lubed hand can also work wonders.


This is the elastic piece of skin on the underside of the penis, where the shaft meets the head. It’s highly sensitive and the primary trigger of orgasms in people with penises.

Hands or mouth, it’s all good here.

To get handy with it, slide your lubed hand up and down the shaft, letting your thumb graze the F-spot. During a blow job, make sure your tongue pays extra attention to this hot spot.


The foreskin is filled with nerve endings that actually enhance pleasure for those with uncircumcised penises. This thin layer of skin provides the opportunity to mix it up for different sensations during a hand job or blow job.

You can let it glide over the penis and glands with each stroke or gently retract it to focus on the naked F-spot and head. Be gentle and use lube.

Scrotum and testicles

The coin purse is filled with super-sensitive nerves waiting to be enjoyed. Gently massage the balls during oral, using your hands, or while masturbating.

Up the pleasure by showing the scrotal raphe some love. This is the seam that runs down the center of the scrotum. Run your finger gently up and down the raphe while masturbating, or let your tongue work its magic on the seam when performing oral.


This sensitive patch of skin lies between the scrotum and anus. You can reach this hot southern destination from pretty much any position on yourself or someone else.

Reach beyond the sack during oral or use your hands and rub it, or reach between the legs during missionary sex. Use your knuckle to apply pressure while sliding it back and forth. Do it as ejaculation nears for a mind-blowing climax.


This walnut-sized gland sits at the root of the penis and can lead to powerful, sheet-twisting orgasms. You can only reach the P-spot via B-town, so a well-lubed finger or prostate vibrator works best. If it floats your boat, gently insert your finger or vibrator a couple of inches into the rectum, applying pressure to the front wall. When you find the right move, keep at it. Stroke or suck the penis at the same time for maximum pleasure.

In conclusion, our bodies are filled with sexually charged areas just waiting to be explored. The most important thing is to take the time to learn which spots do it for you and your partner. Everyone's body is different. Certain areas may or may not give you the pleasure your seeking. Once you've explored, then engage in some intimate and sensual foreplay to make the most of them. To see how Tantric Healing Massage can assist with the opening of some of these zones, click on Services to learn more!

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